Why Facebook could be damaging your chances at finding LOVE.
Facebook is a great social networking site that allows users to share status updates, interests, photos and much more with approved friends or even the public depending on your personal privacy settings. This social networking site contains users from ages 13 – 100 years old. High school students, their parents and even grandparents share the enjoyment of sharing information with their social network family and friends.
One problem that Facebook has inflicted on society is the opportunity for everyone to become a detective and investigate the people around us, spy on our ex’s and fill our heads with hasty generalizations based on what we find. We all do this including myself. You see a photo of your ex girlfriend or boyfriend with their new love and you automatically begin picking out a flaw about this person whether it be their nose is too big, you had better hair or straight to the point you think they downgraded we are constantly judging people based on what we find on Facebook.
I overheard a couple of girls talking in the library the other day and one of the girls talked for about twenty minutes about her relationship with her ex. Finally near the end of the conversation the other girl asked, “So what does he do now? Job? School? The girl immediately replied, “I don’t know I have not spoke to him in a couple years.” After a chuckle her friend replied, “So you just Facebook stalk him.”
The problem with having this information at our fingertips is it is now taking people longer to truly move on from their ex’s because you are constantly checking their page whether they checked in at the gym or posted a new photo of them with their arm around a mystery person, they are constantly fresh in your head.
Facebook has also made us very judgmental and some of us make hasty generalizations with even consciously realizing it.
When we meet an attractive single person we automatically begin questions their intentions or the negative trait this attractive person MUST portray that keeps them from being in a relationship. In our society we all seem to assume the worst of people especially potential relationship prospects because of all of the information available to us. I have noticed that most people are more likely to hand someone their Facebook URL then their phone number. This means that you and your potential new relationship will be able to go through past photos, comments, status updates and interests before even going on a date with one another. This is assuming you two did not Google search each other as soon as your new potential walked away. You may have laughed at that last statement but it happens more often then you think. We no longer trust people and therefore do not take the time to get to know someone without investigating them first.
Why is this a problem? We often search these social networks to find dirt on the person we potential want to start a new relationship with. This means that we are not logging onto these sites excited to find out common interests, we are logging on to see when their last relationship was and if the information they told us matches their profile.
Bottom Line:
This means we are starting potential relationships off on a negative foot rather then a positive, whether it is looking up your ex or digging up dirt on your new boo it leaves you irritated and frustrated instead of excited. The best pat about dating is getting those butterflies around the person you are interested in or the excitement of that first date. Facebook investigation can make you question a person before even giving them a chance and in extreme cases may make someone run away before even understanding who they are running away from based on their online profile.
Do you spy on your ex on Facebook?
Have you walked away from a potential new relationship based on something you found on their Facebook? We want to hear from you! Thanks for reading!
xoxo Gift-Of-Gab
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